For the past four years i have been in relationships that lasted six months or longer and have only been single for less then a month at times. Some ended good and others have not at all. Some are really good friend and others I do not talk to period point blank. My current relationship i am having problems with trust. I look at it and i ask why is that? What is it that is making me go crazy and hard on him? What is it that is making me want to leave him? And for the last week or two I have just been thinking and thinking. Is it cause we rushed, I asked? no it can not be cause i have known him for a minute now and we been talking. Before i made it offical i had just got out of a relationship that i was in since june and went our seperate ways in january. Cause we never seen each other maybe once a month even once every two months. Now i get mad at my boyfriend cause i am always thinkin of the past never what is right there in front of me at the time. I am always comparing what i have now to what i had then and how it turned out for the worse not the better. My boyfriend well lets give him a name and my ex to make it easier lol. my boyfriend will be sexy and my ex will be ugly just for now. Okay so sexy called me and i went off cause i do not trust him now i talk to ugly and he said i need let go of the past in order to move on with the future. I called sexy over to talk to him apologize for how i been acting and see what he thinks of it all. He said the same thing to me that my ex said and i then realized it is true i am so stuck on my past and being hurt i use it agianst him.So for everyone let go of the past times that you been hurt and move on what the worst that can happen you live and you learn.






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I have the same exact problem, I have trust issues with my boyfriend. Or I act cold at times or I don't act mature in certain situations. Its hard though, when your prior relationships consist of cheating, lying, physical and mental abuse. I told my boyfriend that I need time to heal the wounds that have been created over the years. He insist that everything will be okay and that theres not need to depart but its important to heal and not just cover up your wounds. You should seek counseling, I do, I see my counselor twice a week now. It really works, you can say that you will not longer act that way but you have to find the root cause to your actions. Once again, this is just my perspective but I can relate a lot.