There’s a lot I can say in regards to domestic violence, my first boyfriend was mentally violent and my second boyfriend was physically violent. My first boyfriend was black don’t take it out of context I’m not saying that him being black made him violent. Just letting you know, he was my first puppy love and till this day we keep in contact. I went out with him when I was 15 years old, and I didn’t know better, I just followed my feelings and responded with that. He was obsessive and extremely jealous, when we argued he would get in my face, literally, and stat calling me names for a good 15 minutes. He did it with such a great passion that it would get to me so badly that I would begin to cry. He knew I was a crybaby, so looking back I think he did it for pleasure more than for an actual reason. I would also feel forced by him into doing things I didn’t want to. Our relationship ended two years later and we were off and on for another two years. He was a big part of my life and because of our relationship I experienced a lot of racism at a young age.

My second boyfriend was Mexican and he was physically violent, and at times mentally when he yelled. Even his mom noticed how badly he treated me and would tell him, “I’m not your girlfriend you can’t talk to me that way”. That day really hit me, and a little bit after that I ended our relationship. But besides yelling at me he would choke me and pull my hair when he taught I was lying to him. Looking back now I feel like I was desperate for love or something like that because why else would I stick around. Good thing our relationship didn’t last longer than four months but I definitely learned not to let other people threat me this way.

I know it can be hard to let go of someone you care about but let me tell you, it’s not worth it! Once you get older like me, you’ll realize how he was never worth your time or love.  The force you feel when you are in love is the same force that can blind you from the physical and mental force implemented in you by your love one. Don’t blind yourself with love, stop and reflect and weight things out. Is it worth it??? Ask yourself